da-at-ass:
Please do not approach strangers or people who you know don’t want to be approached by you and then insist that they’re your astral sibling and that you really feel a genuine connection with them. I assure you that you are being creepy as fuck when you do that. It will not improve your long-term relationships to try to forcibly adopt complete strangers or your stalking victims into your spirit family.
See, this is the kind of thing I think of when people talk about problematic behavior.
Any time someone tells me they’re a bride of (insert being here), I give them the squinty side-eye. Any time someone starts talking about being an embodiment of a deity, squinty side-eye. Any time someone starts talking about being spiritual kin to something or someone who has had no ability to vet or sound in on the subject…
Yep. Squinty side-eye.
Look, guys, I understand how hard it is to live in this world, feeling alone and ostracized or misunderstood. I understand how strong the drive is to find one’s tribe, and also how imperative it is to find leverage in this world over things which make us feel unsafe.
The thing is, if the coin by which one purchases said feelings of belonging or safety is the safety, freedom, or stolen sovereignty of another being, then how are you any better than those you fear or dislike? How are you not as much of an abuser as those you claim to stand against? How is your cause right?
As a witch, I’m honestly not terribly enamored of the “woogy,” aka “stuff that only I can see.” This applies to my own woogy and anyone else’s. I don’t validate people’s beliefs or feelings in general, that’s not my goal. I figure the truth manifests itself in ways that are undeniable, so if someone tells me about something that I can’t perceive myself, then it’s not real and they’re either lying or delusional.
The reason I look at things this way, is because I had too many people come into my life and claim we had a past life together, that they were all powerful otherkin, that they had the sole loyalty of a deity behind them, that they were kin to incredible forces.
Then they turned around and weaponized all of those connections and beliefs, and used them to create a hostile narcissistic environment around themselves for all who were near them, including my family. For years, we have struggled with these people and their makeshift cults. We’ve watched people fall down the rabbit hole with them, hoping for Wonderland, only to land in a garbage dump. We’ve helped people get out of that place, get free of those people. We’ve helped people heal after their battles are over. We’ve worked to help each other grow and heal past those wounds.
And we’re still healing.
This is toxic behavior to me. If it ever comes across like I am a hostile, angry, mean-spirited person with tendencies to curse first and ask questions later, I apologize to all of you for that. I can only say that I have reasons for being how I am, and I work every day to make sure that side of me is kept firmly under restraint, but if you ask me to arm you, I absolutely will do that because there really are monsters out there, and their snares are incredibly appealing.
In short, if your feelings matter more than other people’s safety, you’re creating a hostage situation, and you need to understand that some of us will respond accordingly. We understand what you’re doing, and we have learned how to protect ourselves.