May your coming year be filled with magic and dreams and good madness. I hope you read some fine books and kiss someone who thinks you’re wonderful, and don’t forget to make some art – write or draw or build or sing or live as only you can. And I hope, somewhere in the next year, you surprise yourself.
re: reading feedback. I recently reconnected with someone who I’ve had a 6-year “star crossed” relationship with. I felt so much love for (& from) him, but there are just so many reasons we can’t be together. Since then I’ve started a new relationship with someone who seems better for me in every way – but there is still a part of me that’s attached and scared to let go. The “time to let go & move on” message has come up a lot recently, so your reading was spot on :)
Feeling like you can’t let go because of the time spent with someone and because they are so familiar is not a good feeling. I’ve had more than one instance of those, but the one that probably hits closest to yours was my “brother” (who’s coming up in conversation a lot lately, go away dude lol).
I felt like no matter what shitty things he’d done I just couldn’t “throw away” this 12 year relationship over something so small, but once I realized the scope of exactly how shitty his actions were I just couldn’t justify staying around. I did though, for two more years where he only bothered to care every six months when he was hurting and needed me to support him.
After I cut him off, though, I felt so much better about my life. Yes, it hurt and honestly it still does. Letting go of someone you care for is never easy, but sometimes it’s for the best. Sometimes good things don’t stay as good as they were or they may have never been truly right for us in the first place. If it’s not meant to be then holding onto it will only make things harder for everyone, especially you since you’re the one who sees all the connections around you (your connections to both people and your feelings for both, is what I mean by that).
It’s not easy and it’s perfectly alright to grieve for it as a substantial loss in your life, but just remember that you are making room for better things to come into your life. I wish you all the best and if you ever need to vent my ask and inboxes are open.
💜
Respecting the Gods
Don’t… treat them as tools. Deities aren’t obligated to help you, even if you do everything “correctly” to ask. They’re not vending machines, or a list of correspondences that only gets value from how they best serve you. They’re gods!
Instead… treat them like people. (Really high-status people.) Build a relationship before asking big favors. Compensate them for their time. Respect they have their own autonomy. Respect that your will is not the center of their universe.Don’t… reduce them into archetypes. Putting Frejya or Aphrodite into just “love goddess” takes out so much of their depth. (Example, both of these goddesses also have warlike aspects.) Putting them into narrow categories and treating all deities that fit as the same can be reductive at best and insensitive to the root cultures at worst.
Instead… address who you’re really talking to. Do your research. See how a god either lines up with or defies your assumptions. See what makes them different from a deity with a similar domain. If you wish to speak to the Horned God, speak to the Horned God, and if you want to speak to Cernunnos or Pan, call them Cernunnos or Pan.Don’t… ignore the lore. UPG Can certainly exist and add depth, but the lore has survived and is what all these gods are largely founded on. It’s important for us to recognize it and know who we’re approaching.
Instead… do your research beforehand. Did you know Aphrodite is widely considered to HATE pigs and be offended with offerings of pork or images of pigs on the altar? Might be a good thing to know before you accidentally offer some fresh bacon. (But if you recognize the lore and find a way to spin it so it works, more power to you~)Don’t… insult other people’s gods. If those gods don’t resonate with you, they have a lot of meaning for other good people. I’m tempted to say don’t insult your own, either. Playful banter is one thing, but there’s a line between affectionate jabs and straight up disrespect. Find where that line is for you.
Instead… talk to other people. If something about a god you don’t worship feels problematic, talk to their followers and devotees and see what they have to say about it. They probably have an approach you haven’t been exposed to. Analyze your own relationships with deities. And if the way you speak about a deity makes someone else uncomfortable or upset, respect their right to feel that way, apologize, and learn from it. Remember that each deity has changed someone’s life for the better.
@kodynasty
#its hard to get by sometimes
I know that’s right. I currently have a crap ton of medical bills from all this anxiety nonsense I went through recently. So every little bit helps in the long run.
¯_(ツ)_/¯
I loved the smell of ocean water. Salt always smells like memory.
Sherman Alexie, What You Pawn I Will Redeem
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Relax wild one. It’s not your job to be everything everyone needs, and you don’t have to be impressive to be loved. Stop trying so hard. Just show up … and be real with the world. That is enough.
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while it is tempting to squeeze witchcraft into every little aspect of your day, know also that you are not expected to reach some quota in order to maintain some status as a witch. it’s alright to go days, even months without doing anything magical.
it’s good to do magic to help you along in every day life. but dont stress yourself out trying to make every action a spell. taking some time to be mundane does not invalidate you as a witch.
Death Witch Decor and Crafts
Okay so I am new at Death witchcraft, but I really want to get my foot in the door. I’m crafty and I love to decorate, and decided that would be a fun way to get started! So here are some crafts and such for Death witches!!
- Faux Bug Taxidermy – good for spirit vessels of bugs and such. Plus, these look awesome!
- Diy Cloches – Perfect for displaying bones, butterflies, and more! I like the classy look of these, and enjoy that they can kind of hold in the energy of its occupant.
- Salt Dough Bones – make these fake bones for whatever you like! I’m going to use mine as little spirit vessels and ask permission of the occupant to use them in bone throwing.
- Pet Ghost – Isn’t this cute? I think it would be a very endearing spirit vessel for a pet that’s passed.
- How to Clean Bones – This tutorial uses peroxide. I’m not an expert on bone cleaning, but it looks okay. Proceed with caution, and please check in with your local authorities about collecting bones.
- Faux Bone Mobile – This looks awesome! I won’t be using real bones, but I like the way it looks. This could be used as a display near your altar, or be enchanted to act as a ward.
- Paper Mache Skull Cast – Take an ordinary faux skull, and make as many as you want out of this paper Mache cast. Give them to friends, or just decorate your house!
- Human Bone Anatomy – Tape this up or frame it near your altar to learn the anatomy of human bones! Not really useful since human bones don’t really belong outside of a grave, but still fun to learn. You could do this with any animal too!
- Skeleton Bottles Tutorial – Another spirit vessel idea. Or an elixir holder, etc. I just think this would be great for pouring out offerings to spirits.
- Skeleton Dish – Now you have a place to pour offerings!!! Or you know, candy. I like candy.
- Paper Coffin – These are good for spirit vessels, holding spell ingredients, or offerings. You could even send spell chants to friends with these.
- Clay Ghost Tealight Covers – These are not only adorable, but incredibly good for setting the mood for late night spirit communications. I love the idea of using these everyday and idk setting them up on my altar.
- Coffin Table Planter – I really like adding herbs and such into death witchcraft. So why not put them in this planter? It not only adds a little flair, but gives off that fun creepy vibe.
- Skeleton Book Holder – Grimoire holder, anyone???
- Ancestor Candle Votives – This could be an awesome way to honour your ancestors! And by ancestors, I mean anyone from the past that you choose to honour.
- How to Clean a Headstone – This is good if you tend the graves of people you know/family members. I am becoming a mortician, so it’s good to know how to do this for me, that way I can help people learn themselves after someone they love passes.
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