I’ve decided to do another giveaway to show my appreciation to all of my followers and to promote new updates to my shop! I’ll try to keep this one short and sweet.
First place: -A scarf hand knit by me -A sample of my favorite rose tea -A crystal ball ring -An Aventurine Tree of Life pendant -A Rainbow Moonstone cabochon pendant -Wishes charm bottle -A wire-wrapped Moss Agate pendant -A large chunk of raw Amber -Forest scented incense -”The Rose Collection” Jasmine candle -Druid’s Heart charm bottle
Second place: -A three-card tarot reading by me -Pressed wildflowers in a floating glass frame -Rose tea as mentioned above -A crystal ball ring -Custom spell jar
Third place: -A three card tarot reading by me -Custom spell jar
The rules are as follows: –Check out my shop here! After all, many of these products are from my shop! Favoriting my shop is a bonus! -Use coupon code OSTARA18 for 20% off any purchase until March 31 -Do not tag as giveaway. If you do, you will not win. -Both likes and reblogs count as entries -Must be following me to win. After all, this giveaway is to show appreciation to my followers -Giveaway ends on April 9, 2018 -Have fun!
You don’t have to write out a long list to be able to say you have your own correspondences to certain objects or colors, etc. For example, remember in kindergarten/preschool when you’d use traffic lights to show your level of understanding for a topic? You probably began associating the colors to that! Green for a deep understanding or success, Amber for difficulties or confusion and Red for frustration and simply having not a single clue. Or, your phone can be associated with either unlimited knowledge or social interactions (depending on what you use your phone for).
You don’t need to write a list of your own correspondences to say that you have them, nor use traditional, handed down ones. Just look around you and identify what you already think.
If I could give newbie witches just ONE piece of advice aside from the fact that it’s more important to actually BE a witch than to have all the tools and aesthetics, it would be this post.
Correspondences can vary across locations and cultures. Your personal correspondences are going to resonate SO much deeper in your craft that ones you just pulled off a blog or a webpage.
❤️I’m obsessed with rose water, I recently started using it all the time. In baths, in tea, in spells, etc. So I decided instead of spending more to buy small bottles in store I’d just make my own, if you’ve never done this let me learn you a thing!
What you need:
🌹Roses (duh right)
🌹Distilled water
🌹Strainer
🌹Storage container for your water
🌹Something to do for 20 minutes
•So, get your roses off the stem and pull those petals apart! Make sure you rinse them in lukewarm water to get any gunk off!
•After your petals are rinsed, toss them into your pot and fill it with just enough distilled water to cover the petals!
•Turn the heat up and let those babies simmer for about 20 minutes. (I did the dishes while I waited, but you do you).
•When the petals look lighter pink and flimsy you’re just about done! Let it cool or keep it hot, either way it’s time to strain them!
•Strain right into container or glass bowl to let cool.
•Enjoy your rose water!
(I got the roses for $8 on Valentines Day clearance – with some discount chocolate because why not – and I used 6 of them to make my water!) (DISCLAIMER: If you ARENT using organic roses it’s not recommended that you ingest or use this on your skin- use organic roses to make that water. This stuff is great for spells though!)
SLYTHERIN: “I may think of you softly from time to time. But I’ll
cut off my hand before I ever reach for you again.” –Arthur Miller (John
Proctor: The Crucible)
Shout out to people like me who have parents who are loving but are black holes of emotional labor… It took me a long time to realize that it’s okay to have mixed feelings about your parents, about your relationship with them.
Sometimes parents can love you but be somewhat toxic to you and your growth, and that’s a very hard realization to come to if you, like me, grew up extremely close to them.
Sometimes parents can love you genuinely but lack emotional maturity, forcing you to perform disproportionate amounts of emotional labor. Some parents manifest symptoms of their mental illness in ways that are toxic to your mental illness.
Some parents, like mine, try so hard to be good parents but fall back on habits of emotional manipulation because they haven’t processed their own traumas and are modeling behavior they grew up with. That doesn’t make their behavior acceptable, and it’s okay to feel exhausted and hurt when they betray you. You don’t have to forgive every mistake.
I want you to know that it’s okay to protect yourself, to need some space apart from them. The love you have for your parents is still valid, and you are making the right decision.
Placing a safe emotional distance between myself and my parents has been one of the most difficult, heartbreaking processes I’ve ever gone through… it hurts to try to curb the strength of your own natural empathy around people you love. It feels disingenuous to your heart’s natural state.
But I promise you, you are not hard-hearted or ungrateful, and you are not abandoning them. You are making a decision about your own emotional, mental, and spiritual health.
I know what it’s like in that confusing grey area of love mixed with guilt and anxiety, of exhaustion and quasi-manipulation and unreciprocated emotional labor, and I promise you, you are not alone.
Your mixed feelings about your parents are valid.
Ah, this something that’s always floated around in my head, and this person wrote it so perfectly.
This rat doesn’t know anything, but it knows that sometimes snacks fall into its cage, and sometimes the floor shocks its feet. It likes the snacks, and it hates the shocks. It will tell you to do things that produce snacks, and it will tell you not to do things that produce shocks.
This little rat is not the only power inside your head, and it might not be the strongest, but it’s there and it has influence.
So pay attention to how you’re treating the little rat.
If every time you learn something new, you say to yourself “ugh, I’m so ignorant for not already knowing this,” you’re shocking the rat. You’re teaching it to be afraid of learning new things, to associate it with embarrassment and self-criticism.
Remember to feed the rat instead. Tell it “now I know, and that is good,” and let it eat its snack in peace.
If every time you take care of yourself and your home, you say to yourself “ugh, I never do this enough, and I’ll never get it right,” you’re shocking the rat. You’re teaching the rat that it was safer when you didn’t try to take care of things.
Feed the rat instead. Praise what you have done, forgive what you haven’t, so the rat can feel safe.
When the rat takes a step in the right direction, even if the step is too small or slow or not in quite the right direction, feed it. Don’t shock it for being imperfect; it’ll only learn not to take any steps at all. Feed it, and let it get bolder, and take bigger steps, and give it bigger rewards for those bigger steps.